I believe that psychotherapy is nothing to be ashamed of and it can help many women to get back to health and empowerment after abuse.
Judith Ruskay Rabinor, editor stated…
“Becoming a psycotherapist has been compared to learning a craft or becoming a fine artist. It is not surprising that one of the most important opportunities for growth is in one’s own personal treatment. Subtle learnings, almost impossible to define, take place in the process of internalizaton.”
A Warrior Prevails by SharI Botwin states…
“I knew from the moment I walked in the door that Dorothy would be the woman who would help me save my life”
The message here is that psychotherapy is a gift that can help us overcome past trauma, abuse And failure to become empowered again and regain confidence.
Never give up on your quest to be heard resonates inside me now and always has. This is my voice and I held on to these words knowing someday that I would be free from the abuse I suffered.
My search for love and acceptance helped me survive. In my early twenties, I realized I had the power to make my dream a reality. When she found her therapist Dorothy…even though it took her three years to begin talking about the abuse she suffered; she reconginized that Dorothy was able to convey sensitivity, compassion, and acceptance and that was the key that enabled her to journey down the road of recovery.
“Before I broke my silence, I spent countless hours trying to understand so many years of confusion, pain, and shame. When I spoke about what I was feeling, Dorothy sat with tears in her eyes, and her energy was focused all on me. I left the session feeling, hearing, and sensing her response to what I said as well as to things I censured or blocked. I brought her with me everywhere”, remembers Sharl.
One of the most important aspects of her work was the creation of the therapeutic pause. There were moments when we would sit together through my feelings. For example, Dorothy would say ” I admire you, you have so much courage and it will be okay.” They would share that healing time together.
“Throughout my years of abuse I was constantly running from feelings to protect myself from dealing with something that seemed insurmountable. Only when I was alone could I grieve and acknowledge the abuse. As I recovered, I took what I internalized from Dorothy as a model to foster connection and healing”, recalls Sharl.
The point of the article is thousands if not millions of women suffer abuse all over the world. It is not shameful to seek psychotherapy which can heal many more people than just oneself. We as women should all be trying to empower and strengthen one another especially if you have suffered any type of emotional, physical, or psycological abuse. Reach out and contact NAMI or any public mental health agency. For us to rise from the ashes of abuse we must heal.