Break Up With Insecurities And Embrace Self-Love


Self-love is important but some of us depend on others to bring us the love we need.

We look for it in substances, in materialistic pursuits, but it can’t produce it. Self-love must come from you. Self-love must be you learning to see your worth. It’s you acknowledging that as you are, there is something unique and great about you. Self-love has taken me sometime to embrace. I still have moments where I remind myself how important it is to cherish me. To see my value. And once I do, I am comforted. Self-love is truly breaking up with your insecurities. It’s calling it out and admonishing it for not reflecting the truth of who you are. I break up with my insecurities in the form of a letter.

A Letter To Insecurities…

Dear Insecurities,

In my teens, you appeared to overwhelm me. I’m the tallest girl in class. I slouch on-line, bending a knee in a desperate attempt to lower myself, to appear shorter. I look at my nose and wish I can shrink it. I smile and see two front teeth bigger than the rest. What no one else notices embarrasses me. I tell myself the reason why I’m not dating is because I’m not beautiful enough. My head always in a book. I’m not fun enough. They can’t see me.

Now in my twenties, you enter when I want to write. When I get up to speak. When I think about my goals. You say I don’t know enough. You say I’m not good enough. You’re there when I think about relationships. You’re not the “dating type.” You care too much about your work. You’re not spontaneous enough. Not smart enough for him.

However, these are lies you scatter in my head. I stand tall. I admire the beauty of my long legs. I fall in love with how wide my smile extends. How bright it is. How beautiful I am. I think about my love of books. The joy I derive from reading. The comfort that comes in writing and I’m proud. I’m proud to know that I have a passion that fills me deeply. I think about the kind words that past teachers have left in my notes, “You have a powerful voice.” I think about words that friends have said, “You’re inspiring.” I think about my parents, my siblings, friendships and my God. I’m loved. I’m smart. I’m beautiful. I’m fun. I’m worthy. I will always be worthy and so will you. And so are you.

Write a letter to your insecurities to break free from it.  When you do, what would you say?

Isioma Ononye

Isioma Ononye is a freelance writer, blogger and Social Media Specialist. She's passionate about communications, working on causes that pertain to supporting women, girls and young professionals. She's often found discussing literature, politics or her dream of meeting Oprah.