This is a guide that everyone who has In-Laws should read especially during the holidays…
They say you don’t marry the person; you marry the family. That can be a beautiful thing, but you certainly can’t pick your family. If you’re dreading the holidays because you will be around certain in-laws that you can do without, here are a few tips to get through it.
1. Set Realistic Expectations
In a perfect world, everyone would get along. But this isn’t a perfect world and everything hasn’t been peachy keen between you and your in-laws thus far. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by thinking this will finally be the “kumbaya” moment. There’s a reason why you don’t get along with that specific in-law so remember that.
2. Don’t Take It Personally
A lot of times, someone’s actions and words are a lot more about themselves rather than the intended target. Take everything with a grain of salt and remember that the reason everyone has gathered is to celebrate the holidays with loved ones. Keep that in mind and do your best to keep the peace and let comments roll off your back.
3. Be A Team Player
One of the quickest ways to put someone at ease is to compliment them and get him or her to open up and start talking about what is probably their favorite subject: themselves. If you’re hosting, ask your mother or sister-in-law for help setting the table. Include them in the evening’s events. Strike up a conversation and be sure to be funny and charming. If you’re the one who is a guest, offer to help out in the kitchen.
4. Plan Your Exit Strategy In Advance
All good generals plan an exit strategy before going into battle. You should, too. If you’re the one visiting the in-laws, you and your partner should discuss how long you’re going to stay ahead of time. There’s nothing wrong with taking two cars if you can as long as there’s an agreement and excuses made ahead of time. If you’re visiting from out-of-town, consider staying at a hotel or with friends instead of with the dreaded in-laws.
5. Carve Out Some “Me” Time
Yes, the holidays can be one of the most hectic times of the year. That’s why it’s important to carve out some time for yourself so you can recharge your battery. That can include anything from washing some dishes by yourself to taking the family dog out for a walk to watching a movie with the children in the house. Anything to give yourself some distance and mental space from whomever you need a break from.