Happiness Lost In Transition
In life we transition from teenager to young adult and grow excited to reaching the special day- graduation day and then finding LOVE. But what happens when our happiness is lost in transition from being adolescent, young adults to real world adults? We become engulfed with new opportunities and life that we neglect finding real love. Or the fairy-tale from our young mind -of what our ‘husbands’ should be like overshadows the qualities that’s presented to us from a good man, as a result we overlook, we panic and live in fear.
How can we change our outlook? Here are a couple steps to attract Happiness:
1) Seek a relationship from your heart and not from fear:
Many people seek a relationship out of fear of being alone instead enjoying the ‘moments’. Don’t allow feelings of not wanting to be the last ‘book’ on the shelf keep you from finding true love or being happy. When you allow these feelings of wanting to feel “complete” to manifest or having a trophy partner to “show off” to friends, it causes you to attract ‘fear-based’ people. ‘People that want to abuse, take advantage of you and/or manipulate you.’ Once you change your mind-set to realizing it doesn’t matter if you are single and/or your contentment is not dependent on any relationship status, then you will allow happiness to enter into your dominion.
2) Be the best for yourself and don’t change to become someone’s dream girl:
Many of us are guilty of doing this one time or another, including myself. Changing ourselves to fit others expectation of an ideal partner is never a good thing. In the past I found myself feeling drained just to keep up with their expectations. You start to lose yourself and become someone you’re not- and that’s actually a turnoff ! I realized this approach is unsanctionable. So I decided to love me for me, because if I can’t love myself how can I expect someone else to?! Try to focus on getting out there and meeting compatible people who want to celebrate and appreciate the true you.
3) Never put your life on hold for love, always live your best life:
You ever say to self, ‘I’m going to do this when I get married, or I am going to travel when I find that special person….?’ Don’t wait for the moment; do it now! You’ll be surprised when the right persons enters your life when you decide to let go and just live in the now. During my dating Journey, I’ve tried two approaches: 1) doing too much, too soon, 2) living my life, pursuing my goals, and being open to dating along the way. What’s working so far- #2, it’s not about thinking about love and blocking love out of your life. Rather, it’s about living for the ‘moments’, dating yourself and allowing life to fall in its place. Not making ‘finding love’ the singular goal, but rather, an accent that complements your life.